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Hi Mary!

Disappointment. Feels like more discomfort. Getting comfortable with disappointment and discomfort. Today disappointment is making me think of self compassion and Kristin Neff, Chris Germer, and the Center for Mindful Self Compassion. I dug up this sequence of phrases that capture my compassionate voice:

This is hard. This hurts.

All people suffer/have pain/disappointment.

I give myself what I need. I accept myself as I am.

I memorized the phrases for a self compassion class I was taking in 2020 but really haven't needed them. They feel more helpful now than they did at the time.

It helps to Realize that my mere presence, with nothing added, is of value.

A friend was telling me about a relative (granddaughter?) who has applied to 12 colleges and has been receiving a series of rejections. The wording of the rejections seems very harsh. She said some thing to the effect - after thoroughly reviewing your application and giving it deep consideration we feel you are not the ideal candidate for (name of school). The relative is, understandably, feeling some stabs of pain.

Your words at the end of the post: Again and again and again.

Begin again. Keep going. Keep moving. Beginner's mind. Stay. Allow. Accept. Be open and receptive. Focus on questions not answers. The world needs you.

So great to engage with all the thoughts you have shared today - and for me, most especially, the gem of a poem revisited. :-)

Cheers!

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